Attachment Style Test
Why something small unsettles you, or why you keep stepping back. Two axes, one honest answer.
The way you are in love was learned a very long time ago
An attachment style describes how you move toward closeness and how you handle distance. It is read on two axes: attachment anxiety (how much you fear being left, how much reassurance you need) and attachment avoidance (how much you keep distance, how much you insist on handling things alone). Crossing the two gives four styles: secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful-avoidant.
This version runs 22 items drawn from ordinary relationship moments and gives you an exact percentage on both axes, a quadrant chart, and what your style actually looks like from the inside. Where an axis lands in the middle, we tell you plainly that you are borderline. An attachment style is a strategy that can move toward secure.
Attachment styles: common questions
What is an attachment style?
An attachment style describes how a person moves toward closeness and how they handle distance inside intimate relationships. It comes from the attachment work of Bowlby and Ainsworth. Adult attachment is measured on two axes: attachment anxiety (how much you fear being left and how much reassurance you need) and attachment avoidance (how much you keep distance from closeness and insist on doing things alone). Crossing the two produces four styles: secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful-avoidant.
What are the four styles?
Secure (low anxiety, low avoidance): comfortable both close and alone, trusting the relationship while still giving space. Anxious (high anxiety, low avoidance): values the relationship and invests deeply, and is easily unsettled by small shifts in the other person. Avoidant (low anxiety, high avoidance): independent and self-sufficient, and inclined to step back when closeness increases. Fearful-avoidant (high on both): wants closeness and fears being hurt by it, so reaches and pushes away in the same breath. None of the four is better than another, and each can move toward secure.
Can an attachment style change?
Yes. An attachment style is a strategy learned early inside relationships rather than a label stuck onto you, and it moves with new relationship experience, self-awareness and practice. Plenty of people drift toward secure through one relationship that stays safe long enough, or by deliberately learning to care for their own triggers. This test measures where you lean right now, and none of it is fixed.
Is the full result free?
Yes. Both exact percentages, the quadrant chart, your style write-up and the per-axis reading are free, with no sign-up. If you want to go deeper there is an optional Deep Analysis at NT$399: an AI-written personal read built from your own anxiety and avoidance percentages, covering your relationship triggers, what you actually need underneath the moment you get anxious or want to run, a guide for your partner and a guide for yourself, and concrete directions toward the secure end.
Is this the ECR scale?
No. The two-dimension framework used here is the one established in adult attachment research, and the items were written by Hour Light to measure those two constructs through everyday relationship situations. It is not a translation or adaptation of the ECR or of any copyrighted instrument. Treat the result as a starting point for self-awareness in relationships; it is not medical advice or a clinical assessment.